That's right, I'm throwing in the towel, I'm waving the white flag, I'm dropping my weapon and coming out with my hands up! Figuratively speaking of coarse. I recently read a quote which lead to all this flag waving I've been doing. Here's the quote:
"This ability to work without strain utilizes an unspoken contract between you and your client which I call surrender. Both of you must let go of, or surrender your will in a compromise built on trust. Surrender is not a defeat or loss of power. As the therapist, you must let go of any agendas about forcing muscles to relax. You can only facilitate an opening and relaxation by letting it happen, not by making it happen. It involves letting go of attempting to control the outcome. Without this, the massage can become a power struggle between you and your client. If your client can sense your compassion and flexibility, they can surrender their resistance to change without a feeling of defeat or surrendering their power."
~Art Riggs, Certified Advanced Rolfer
Suddenly this quote applied to all sorts of aspects of my life. It seemed to me that many of my daily struggles could be handled this way too. Instead of pushing a hot topic with my husband, I found that making suggestions or even just bringing things up conversationally instead of being confrontational helped him be much more open to the idea and compromise was achieved in record time! Same with my day to day dealings with the soon-to-be four year old I live with. I find myself having a new outlook on all kinds of things, career choices, challenging relationships, even vacation plans!
So I challenge you with this, where in your life could a little surrendering do a lot of good?
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